Getting friendzoned? Avoid these simple mistakes that can land you in the friendzone
Are you the quintessential nice guy? You treat women well and are loyal as the day is long. And yet, you fail to score the girl you have had a crush on for so long. This is not a one-time thing rather it has happened to you multiple times. Something is wrong and you cannot figure it out.
If you find yourself landing into the friend zone every now and then despite being a gentleman, there is something you are not doing right. Remember that the friend zone is usually a one-way street. Once you land deep and hard in it, there is no coming back from it. If you wish to avoid the friendzone, understand the mistakes you make and learn to avoid them.
You Are Not Forthcoming With Your True Feelings and Intentions
- If you are the shy type, chances are that you will not reveal your true feelings to the girl you like anytime soon. You wish to take things slow and want her to open to you first before confessing your feelings of love to her. You are also afraid of rejection and believe that outright expression of love can mess things up and she may end up saying no.
We feel you, we do. But we are also here to tell you that skirting the issue and hiding your true feelings will not get you anywhere. Oh, wait! It will get you somewhere and that somewhere is the dreaded friendzone.
- Be forthcoming with her and express your feelings. If she says yes then hurrah! If she says no then you can move on and search for love elsewhere.
Your ‘Nicety’ Gets in The Way
Excess of everything is bad. If you are too nice, the girl you are interested in won’t ever find you challenging. She will consider you a pushover and will see you as nothing more than a harmless friend. If you are a gentleman, stick to being one but in the meantime, don’t become a pushover.
- If you are always worried about offending your girl and would agree to everything she says, then it will be a turnoff for her. Everybody wants someone who has a mind of his own, is confident and can hold his own. There is a reason why the quintessential bad boy usually gets the girl while the nice guy often finds himself landed in the friendzone.
You Are Always Available
Since you like this girl so much, you always jump on every chance to spend time with her. You are always available and say yes to her whenever she needs you. This gives her the notion that you have nothing important going in your life and you are not an interesting person, to begin with.
- Being available all the time would make her lose interest in you. We are not saying that you should start ignoring her calls, but try to strike a balance in prioritizing her over everything. Sometimes it is ok to turn down her request for helping her with a chore because you have some more important things of your own to do.
You Suffer From Self Doubt
Whenever you are around the girl, you get nervous and cannot make up your mind. On the one hand, you want to hold her hand and lead her on. On the other, you feel that this might piss her off and you restrain yourself. Such self-doubt indicates that you have low self-esteem and you suffer from multiple insecurities.
Women find these qualities to be highly unattractive. If you don’t want to land yourself in the dreaded friend zone then be assertive.