Here are 3 common causes of being friendzoned by your wife – Husband’s take a look
Marriage is a blissful relationship where both partners feel safe, happy, and sexually attracted to each other. At least that’s what we all hope for before uttering the words: ‘I do’. However, the harsh reality is that not all marriages are meant to be happy and successful. One of the leading causes of broken marriages is the waning of sexual attraction between couples.
Numerous marriage therapists have reported that women stop finding their husbands attractive a few years into the marriage. They may not opt for divorce straight away, but they put their husbands in the friend zone. Yes, you read it correctly! You can get friend-zoned even in a marriage.
If you are one of those unlucky dudes who have been friend-zoned by their wives, you must be wondering how did this happen? What were the causative factors which landed you in the friend zone despite being married? Look no more, and let us answer your queries.
- It is said that passionate and intimate sex is the cornerstone (if not the entire foundation) of a stable and happy marriage. When sex becomes devoid of passion and intimacy, it creates a gulf between the couple. This gulf widens with time and with the continuation of bad sex. One of the primary reasons your wife may have put you in the friend zone is because you do not satisfy her in the bed anymore.
If such is the case with you, then we recommend you to up your game and understand what you are not doing correctly. There are multiple books and a whole lot of information available on the art of lovemaking. Consult them before it is too late.
Lack of Emotional Intimacy
- Emotional intimacy is the precursor for great sex life and consonance between a husband and wife. As the marriage progresses, most couples lose emotional intimacy. This happens when either one of the partners becomes unattentive and unappreciative of the other partner’s feelings. Analyze the past few years of your marriage and ask yourself if you have been emotionally available for your wife?
Have you listened to her genuine complaints and paid heed to her feelings? If the answer is no then you should know why your wife doesn’t see you as husband material anymore. Try to establish emotional intimacy with your wife and connect with her on a deeper level. Try to have a heart-to-heart conversation with her every now and then.
- Doing so will help rekindle the bond of love between you and the wifey and she will upgrade your status from a mere friend to her lover.
She Doesn’t Deem You Worthy of Her Respect and Admiration
Mutual respect is one of the most important factors for the sustainability of a marriage. When a relationship begins, both partners are in awe of each other. However, it is possible that with time the respect and admiration for one partner get diminished.
- There can be a number of reasons why your wife doesn’t respect you anymore. They may include your mediocre social status, loss of good looks and charm, not moving ahead in your career, or not being surefooted and self-assured. If you are not a natural alpha male, your chances of landing in the friend zone are higher than others.
If such is the case, try to redefine yourself. 180 degrees of personality change just to appease your wife is neither recommended nor a healthy thing to do. However, do try to fix the not-so-good things about yourself such as being overweight or being non-productive at work.
Your wife will appreciate the positive changes and you will hopefully redeem yourself in her eyes.